Monday, April 25, 2011

It's Monday. And I'm NOT busy.

Last week, I wrote about a wonderful man named Dale.  I attended Dale's memorial service this past weekend, and throughout the three-hour service, there were countless words affirming just how special Dale was to so many people.  But the thing that jumped out to me the most throughout those three hours (probably because I am so guilty of this), was spoken by Dale's oldest son, Josh,  who said, 
"I think my Dad was the busiest man there ever was ... but he was the busiest man there ever was who never told you how busy he was."

What is the first thing that comes out of my mouth when someone who I haven't seen in awhile asks me how I've been...?
(And a whole other long line of excuses, all relating to how busy I am.)

And the fact of the matter is, sometimes -- that is actually a true story!  
But that doesn't mean I need to tell everyone about it.  
What Josh said really hit home for me.  He went on to describe how, no matter who you were - or under what circumstances you happened to see Dale - he always made you feel like he had time for you,  that he cared about you, that he loved you.  (I know this to be true because I experienced it myself.)

Does telling people about how busy I am accomplish those things? 
... Does it accomplish anything at all?
I think not.  
And I think I'm going to stop telling people how busy I am.   

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.  ~Colossians 3:12,14


  1. Oh I LOVE this Bec!! It is SO many of us always have to tell everyone how "busy" we are doing good things...just so we can get noticed for doing them...instead of just doing them because that's what God wants us to do. SUCH a great reminder! Oh and look at you with the big 200!!! WOW you go girl!

  2. I love this, too! So very true! I had only seen Dale a few times since my Canyonview days and he always managed to remember me and always seemed to really care. So few people do this, what a perfect reminder to NOT be too busy for loved ones. Thanks for a great start to Monday!

  3. What a great lesson for Monday morning! I too, need to learn this lesson and I will start today. Thanks for the fantastic reminder and glad you had a great Easter!

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  5. so encouraging...thanks for sharing Bec!

  6. What a neat perspective. Thank you for sharing. I think I will also stop telling people how busy I am. :-)

  7. What a great post and what a great man. I wish I had known him but I think I have known a couple of people like him in my life. I will stop and think before I say " I have been so busy lately" to anyone. Thanks for starting my Monday on such a neat note. :)

  8. Love this thought. I'm guilty of giving "busy" as an excuse, but I'll be more aware of it now.

  9. oh my gosh this is brilliant...glad i found you on the hop

  10. I walked away thinking the same thing Becca. It is such a rarity to come across a person that puts aside all the things in their lives to focus on the person in front of them and truly desire to be present with them. What a impactful man and a great challenge. Thanks.


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